When do you go from being in love to not being in love? From being friends to not being friendly?
In my life, the former is something too difficult to judge but I can tell you when the latter happened. It was about 10 or 12 days ago. Apparently.
I've been trying to stay on friendly terms with the ex for a number of reasons including: the fact that he has not a single friend and I don't want him to fall into deeper depression; that we were once in love and should be nice to each other; and finally (and this is hard to admit) because there is a part of me that really, really wants him to step up and be the man he should have been.
We had been in the habit of getting together once a week for coffee or to run errands together (he has the car, I am a foot soldier). Once we went out to listen to a blues band.
So, after the last time I saw him he said he'd call in a couple of days and didn't.
Today is the first time I've heard from him in two weeks.
As soon as he said hello, I could hear it. The end of our friendship. It was the same tone he uses with his ex-wife, a woman he hates.
What happened between gabbing over coffee and today? Nothing except that he has become infatuated with someone else.
This is a small town and I've heard what he is now saying about me. And it hurts.
He says that our relationship ended a year ago and that we stayed together for purely financial reasons. (I wonder how couples therapy fits into this theory? Or the long, slow, painful good bye?)
Why he's being this way with me, I do not know.
But I do know that our friendship is finished.